We take all of this for granted, as women, don’t we? Objectification, impossible beauty ideals, our diminished value to society—we know. But how do we counter it? If not in the mass culture, at least in our own minds? No matter how sophisticated or how dismissive we are of the way society treats us—we are affected.
In yoga, our habits of thought—memories, ideas, reactions—are formed by our samskaras, or subconscious impressions in the mind that route and re-route us toward certain ways of thinking. Over time, we end up traveling these samskaras over and over, into deeper and deeper grooves in our patterns of thought. These grooves form such steep slopes and well-trodden paths that our thoughts are continually drawn into the same repetitive habits, even when they don’t serve us anymore. We just may not see other paths of thought.
“When disturbed by negative thoughts, opposite [positive] ones should be thought of.”Yoga Sutra II.33 - Patanjali
When we do learn to recognize unproductive or unhelpful modes of thought, one method yoga offers for combating these deeply ingrained habits of mind is a very simple plan of counter-thought. As Swami Satchidananda’s translation of Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra II.33 states, “When disturbed by negative thoughts, opposite [positive] ones should be thought of.” Satchidananda explains in his commentary to this Sutra that “It is very difficult to control negative thoughts while staying in a negative environment unless we have extraordinary strength. The easiest way is to change the environment.” Well, that is easier said than done. When women are subjected to a barrage of unwanted messages, changing our environment to one conducive to positive counter-thoughts would require no less than living in a pro-woman fantasy land, or maybe a cave. As such, the powers of our practiced counter-thoughts may be very limited, or even ineffectual.
Of course, there is a way to counter-think without becoming a hermit—there must be! In fact, I think of it as not only feminist, but totally American and utterly First Amendment: the answer to unproductive speech is no less than more speech. Analogously, the feminist counter gesture to unproductive messages is simply this: productive messages and opposing thoughts.At last, we get to Our Lady of the Simple Truth, Gloria Steinem. In her 1981 essay, “In Praise of Women’s Bodies,” Steinem recounts a few days she spent at a spa, moving in and out of a shared “casual nudity” with a group of women—an experience that she regrets as too infrequent in her life. This experience is probably too infrequent for most of us—how often do we get the chance to see each other uncovered, as we really, simply, are? To counter this infrequency, Steinem recommends a “more speech” approach of counter-thought, to burn away samskaras of reduced female worth. She states, “We need the regular sight of our diverse reality to wear away the plastic-stereotypical perfect image against which we’ve each been encouraged to measure ourselves. The impossible goal of ‘what we should look like’ has worn a groove in our brains. It will take the constant intimacy of many new images to blast us out.” Steinem is a savvy yogi, indeed. We must actively seek to view our actual, diverse reality in the full-spectrum, high-gloss light of the sun, and let it pervade our minds even more than the hyper-reality of ubiquitous, false-light media lies. In so doing, we are able to burn unhelpful, hindering samskaras and free ourselves for higher realizations.
As a postscript, one incredible fact here makes me wary: I am already constantly surrounded by the truth of female diversity, all day, every day—and my unproductive samskaras relating to myself as a woman are as deeply grooved as anyone’s. Even though every woman’s body I see in the world is different (and it’s almost never a magazine ideal), and even though I know and have worked with a range of intelligent, competent women who defy any diminished social categorization, there are still huge hurdles to be leaped in order to fully arrive at a state of mind free from the hindrance of the dominant cultural message. The work of filling our minds with a positive reality is extremely hard—and will, as Satchidananda warns, require a change of our environment. Consider the distance to be traveled—Steinem’s essay is over 30 years old, and is still a potent present truth. There is a lot to be done.